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When Grief Hits home

25 Sunday Feb 2018

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challenge, comfort, Risk

 

Dear readers: Thank you for your comments. I read each one and appreciate you taking the time to put your thoughts together.

As one who has been involved in grief since our two-year-old daughter died in the early 70s, I have been interested in different definitions. Clearly looking for one that fit for my experience. Some have not been helpful. Some have set me back, while others have made sense and have been the greatest assistance toward understanding and healing.

The one that I teach at grief seminars is “Grief is the normal and natural emotional reaction to loss or change of any kind.” This one definitely made sense to me over the years. Realizing that grief is neither a pathological order or a personality problem is also helpful. While reading mega websites on grief, this definition is so familiar, and just feels right: “Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behavior” (Grief Recovery Method). Check out their website – a tried and true grief resource.

Think on this and put pen to paper to jot down your feelings. It may be difficult to give grief any credit. You might ask how I can be thankful for the sorrow and sadness I feel? How can I ever acknowledge that the gifts of grief are to be appreciated? And is there such a feeling as ‘letting self down into grief’? There is! And one can grow in faith, knowledge and relationship. It is definately a learning curve, as well as an emotional rollorcoaster.

 

Grief can be your best friend

12 Thursday Nov 2015

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comfort, decisions, patience, understanding

Grief is not a disease. It is not an emotional problem or dysfunction. It is not something to avoid. Grieving is a very normal response to personal loss. It is natural. It is a process. And it is the best medicine when living through loss and tragedy. As we understand this, we realize that we wouldn’t want it any other way. We want to grieve when a loved one dies, simply because we have loved. We want to grief when we leave a beloved home or property because it means a lot to us. We want to grieve when our status in life is not longer the same. When we grieve well, we do not suffer. (donnamann.org grieve grow/WinterGriefWinterGrief cover)

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Consider ways that naming and releasing emotions has been helpful to you during grief.

Comfort and peace surpass logical reasoning (June)

15 Wednesday Jul 2015

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comfort, grief, peace

June, 2015

2015-05-28 06.06.59This week, we parked on the shores of a Lake on Manitoulan Island. Sunsets and sunrises graced the horizon. Early one morning, I saw a deer walk slowly and carefully across the wet soil. Yet, as I look closely, I ask, “Are those tire marks or remnants of the water’s response to the wind on last night’s waves. I didn’t really try to figure this out? And did it matter? As I look at the picture, I think maybe the deer is stealthily walking a labyrinth, even while keeping a close watch on anything that moves. I smile at my assumption. Maybe the facts aren’t important at all. It just might be that the feeling of peace and comfort I gained during this particular sunrise is the first step to see what is actually happening. (Picture ©2015 Lonely fawn)

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Donna Mann

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