, , ,

“Tears filled her eyes and spilled down her face, making the sleeve of John’s shirt wet. She wasn’t crying, not really. She was too numb to cry or feel or react. Rather her body was grieving all on its now, the tears leaking from her eyes without any weeping or sobbing or emotions” (REUNION: Karen Kingsbury, p. 204).

This insert comes from a novel. But, wait you say, novels are fiction so the above is not true. You might even test it and challenge it by saying, it’s the kind of statement I’d find it in a non-fiction book. But, then consider the old clichés, “Fiction is truer than history,” or fact, or truth and yes, even non-fiction.

I just returned from a holiday, and as usual I took many books with me. Because I write about grief and support families and individuals in their grief process, I find it interesting how an author unpacks his or her plot when someone dies in the story. In Reunion, a family grieves the death of a mother, grandmother, wife and friend, and Mom joins in the grieving process. It is raw honesty. Believable and healing.

And why not, when the dying is suffering the greatest loss. Her life. It is natural and normal for family to gather around their loved ones and cry openly. It is a good death when the dying joins in this last family time together. An invisible bond of trust, love and safety connects them.

Take a few moments and write in your journal, or sketch a picture. Trust to paper what comes to your mind