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Accumulative Grief Weights Heavy

25 Thursday Jan 2018

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Christmas, depression, grief

Grief is itself a medicine.  ~William Cowper, Charity.

No, grief is not an illness, but it can become a condition. It is not an illness that you can take a pill, but it is a medicine that is healing. A medicine for the heart and soul and yes, even the physical body. The heart we know, and even the physical we are well acquainted. But what about the soul as we consider the will, intellect and emotion. You’ve heard people say, “God rest his soul”. What a gift in the form of grief as we live day-to-day.

You have most likely come to this site because you have a broken heart, or you know someone who is grieving. This is probably the result of the death of a significant person, or an identified loss of another nature in life. We can develop skills that correspond with or reflect emotion, attitude and feelings in a healthy way. This is heart language too. All too easy logic, the language of the mind, will attempt to rule. However, it is important to understand the process as well.

Grief we are experiencing at this time can be increased and intensified by unresolved grief from the past. Christmas can often trigger this as we see the empty chair at the table or experience another crisis. Sometimes we think we are dealing only with the most immediate grief when in fact these feelings are reminding us of people and situations where grief still lies unresolved. It is not always easy to identify accumulative grief – sometimes the image of grapes help. Grief can give you a heavy heart which makes the dull and dreary days of winter seem worse. Some people find February in the northern hemisphere trigger their depression because of lack of sun, grief can become severe.

Begin or continue to work on your grieving process – it may also free up depression, migraines, and stress related conditions. Pray, eat well and delight in your relationships.

Journal your thoughts – you might make important discoveries about your health. 

 

My thoughts for today,

The Rev. Dr. D.

Christmas: A Difficult Season for Those Who Grieve

11 Monday Jan 2016

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balance in life, Christmas, confidence, grief, grieving

It’s over – it’s done – and you did the best you could, considering circumstances of grief, old haunting memories and unending scripts of useless words. But, then there were rewards: helpful phrases with gentle smiles, as well as stories that stirred healing memories and you knew you were holding your own.

A little like big turkey dinners, “What do we do with the left-overs?” Those feelings and emotions that just don’t want to settle, but keep turning over, stirring and scraping. And are they helpful or do they hinder the healing we continue to need? Consider this –

body mind soul

“A psychosomatic disorder is a disease which involves both mind and body. Some physical dseases are thought to be particularly prone to be made worse by mental factors such as stress and anxiety. Your current mental state can affect how bad a physical disease is at any given time” (Medical Internet).


Grief is a natural and normal process that can cause stress and anxiety, worry and fatigue. This is bound to take a whack at our body and physical stamina, yet it’s healthy. Is this something like giving someone a glass of water and saying, “This is good for you, but it might make you feel down.” Even though we might see shades of truth in this, it doesn’t have the last word. The body gives us those wonderful endorphins to help us through crisis times and then the body and soul digs up the resources to sustain our valleys.

We are stronger than we give ourselves credit. We have the necessary fortitude we need. Sometimes difficulties in our life smothers it. It is then we tell ourselves and others, we do have what it takes, what is necessary, even if we have to dig very deep to touch it, bring it forward and exercise it. It will be there waiting.

Google the following song and read the lyrics. A friend of Grieve and Grow recently referred me to it:

“Fight Song” by Rachel Platten – Chorus goes like this:

This is my fight song

Take back my life song

Prove I’m alright song

My power’s turned on

Starting right now I’ll be strong

I’ll play my fight song

And I don’t really care if nobody else believes

‘Cause I’ve still got a lot of fight left in me

“`

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Take a few moments and add your thoughts to your journal

Donna Mann

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